Lessons from a dead body


Some time back we got a message on the phone that one of my distant relatives died. I attended the funeral along with my parents. I usually like to observe a lot in a funeral as it is quite peculiar place and people behave differently.

That was a small village and when I entered the funeral house there were hardly any people as we were the first to receive the message and people just started coming. I could see the last death vehicle was under construction. I watched it with keen interest as I might have to travel in that one day. The making is simple. They placed two pieces of one vertically cut bamboo in either sides. They filled in the middle space by placing small sticks in the form ofl ‘x’ touching both the vertically placed bamboos. They tied it very hard with jute thread. Then to make it flat, they spread tightly knit coconut leaves on it. That’s it. The last vehicle was ready.

When the time this was over, I could see my dad chatting with a gang of five to six people. The son and the grandson of the lady died were busy receiving the mourners and making arrangements for clearing the body.

Now they brought out the body and I had a glimpse of the full body. She should be around her early eighties and her body shrunk so badly that anyone can lift it easily with their both hands as like they lift a child while sleeping. A one rupee coin was placed on her fore head and her two toes were tied together.

Around six people, after making lots of chaos, lifted the body and placed it on the final vehicle where a single person would have done that as the body was so small. Everyone were trying to prove that they were helping and made that place so clumsy. Someone wanted to place a pillow under the head and another arguing it isnt necessary.

Finally they lifted the body and the procession was very short as the grave yard was only 200 meters away. I went along and stood in a place where I can have a nice view to observe everything. They placed the body near the recently dug pit and started doing all the rituals. Again there arouse a small pandemonium as few people had other opinions on the way rituals were followed. Finally the person with high sounding voice won the game and every one followed as per his advice. I saw the first part of sand fell over the face. It was quite strange to see sand falling on face without victim reacting to it.

Now again I saw my dad along with the same people more or less occupying same places. But now the grandson also joined the discussion. I can hear them discussing on various topics ranging from search of a servant maid, discussion on the character of the current MLA and his prospect of getting chance to contest in forthcoming elections, marriage prospects of another participant of the forum etc.

After a while my mum came out of the home. She was with the ladies sitting inside home and we were waiting outside shamiyana. We decided to leave now and the grand son and son bid adieu with a smiling face.

In the same week I got another message from my mum that one of our close family friends expired in the hospital on accident. He was a middle aged man having two kids one boy and a girl. My father and my mother were totally shocked. They said he was such a nice gentle man and he helped our family in innumerable occasions.

We immediately rushed to his home. There were already big crowd and I heard the cry from quite a distance. I can see gangs of people with sad faces discussing about th mode of death in low voices. I joined one of our common family friends. They were feeling so sad and the guy started telling how good his character was. The lady mentioned that he was almost like their family member and he was the one who used to stand in front in all their family functions whether it is good or bad. She felt sad that there was no one to fill his place now. I too said that he was such a nice man to be with and I would miss a friend like him.

I had a very brief glimpse of the body which was wrapped in hospital cloth. Someone should have called the electric cremation and I can see their van arriving at the spot. Seeing this, his wife rushed out with her children. People just held her strong to prevent her falling on the body. The kids were quite young and the guy was studying his 12th standard and the girl just finished her under graduation. Now I can hear a loud cry though I could not see their faces as the entire crowd was around them. She was saying that he let her alone and how would she settle her son and how she would get her daughter married. God should have been kind enough to let him at least until he perform all those duties. Someone tried consoling her.

Amidst her massive cry, they lifted the body till the van. In no time few people climbed the van and it disappeared.

After returning home, I had time to think a little on that.

Why people took the death of the elderly lady very light?

Why the situation was so serious in the funeral of the middle aged person?

Is that because that the elderly lady was not of any use to them, the family were so cool?

Is that because they miss all the benefits they get from middle aged man, they cried so much?

Is this world so materialistic and selfish?

Oh God. Sometimes the lessons from life are so cruel.

Image courtesy: http://davidderrick.files.wordpress.com/2007/07/lord-byron-on-his-death-bed.jpg

38 comments:

Vipul Grover said...
July 27, 2009 at 11:26 PM

bharathi u r taking a very narrow view here.. the diffrnce is not of being old(and useless) and young(and potentially useful), its about the known vs sudden occurrence.
For an octogenarian lady, whose most probably quite weak, as u describd, family is prepared for the demise. my grandmother was pretty ill in the last two years of her life. wn she died, the scene at our place was quite similar bt wn my grandfathr died, the scene was more mournful as he had been quite well bt for the last one mnth. its the life cycle.. by 80, u hav prformd ur duties, its better to depart thn live those years painfully(vry few r healthy by tht age) nd also 'trouble' ur children in process..
for a middle-aged man, its diffrnt. why were ur parents so distrbd on his demise.. i dont think he was giving any monetary help 2 thm tht they wer materialistic nd hence sad.. they wer sad 2 think about his young children who'll have to face lot of difficulties in the absence of their father, they wer sad 4 her widow who'll have to tak a lot of trouble in prforming her duties, they wer sad for demise of a kind hearted man nd a dear fnd..
i don't mean 2 say thr r'nt materialistic ppl in d wrld bt that's not the only factor. humanity is still alive:)

Shankar said...
July 27, 2009 at 11:34 PM

Bharathi: simple.... a old lady is a burden to everyone...
In second case....as per your story the lady needed the man only to fulfill basic duties..so she is not worried about his death..she is only worried about the duties which he failed to do...

But it can be taken on this view also.. We know that the lady is old and she might die at anytime. so its a no surprise... but it will be a great sorrow if someone in young age dies..its a great shock when a active person dies...

The Survivor said...
July 28, 2009 at 12:00 AM

Looks like you and me have something common i.e. observing people :)

You might find it strange but I was thinking (have a draft) of writing a post on the same issue on something that I have observed over the years.

Some people really don't know how to behave during such times, they treat it like any social occasion and mingle the people around like they meet someone in marriage or other occasion.

As for the age consideration of the dead person, for these people it does not matter as long as they are alive!!

Bharathi said...
July 28, 2009 at 9:36 AM

@ Vipul: First of all I thank you for a nice detailed review.

Regarding sudden and expected, I have witnessed sudden aged death and also prolonged young death. Though the situation wasnt verymuch amplified, I painfully noted almost all those I mentioned in this post were present. Indeed in the second instance I presented in this post, the man died after being treated for around ten days.
Benefits you derive from a man, dont have to be necessarily money. It can be companionship, security etc. You can notice, I was commenting that 'I would miss his company'. when I analyzed my self deep, I thought I was sad because I felt I would miss his pleasant friendship. The same with my parents.

When we see a road accident, we would say Oh my god and move on. Some one might be kind enough to help removing the deadbody from the floor. But we dont cry. At the same time, when some of our beloved is dead, we dont show the same reaction. We cry. We cry louder. For a moment if we analyze the reason in an unbiased way, we can realize that we are afraid of loosing all the benefits that we derived from our beloved ones. Money, security, comradireship etc.

But I do agree that there is a fair amount of humanity still left with us. But it isnt as much as I expect. But I dont think humanity is about crying for dead souls. Its about helping the remaining ones. A few people do that and so I need to agree that a fair amount of humanity is still left.

We all know if a man is dead we can not bring him back alive. we accept this fact very well with strangers but not with our beloved ones. Why?

And indeed I have to change a lot too.

In Mahabharatha, when Krishna was about to say Kunthi that Karna wasnt her son, he start like this. "Kunthi, some times truth is more deadlier than death"

I believe, I stumbled upon that painful truth here.

From your view I understood how strong you feel for humanity and I am very happy about that. And I am extremely happy to have different and brilliant viewpoint from you. I need to agree, it indeed altered a little bit of my stance. Thanks a lot.

@ Shankar: Thanks for your comment. I also answered your second part of comment in my reply to Vipul.

@ Survivor: Thnks for being kind enough to accept we share a common trait.

I would suggest you write a post on that. I would like to read another person's view point as well.

I indeed dont want to complain any one, atleast that isnt my intention. Actualy I should be thankful for all the participants in this incident as they helped me learn important lessons of life.

Vipul Grover said...
July 28, 2009 at 10:20 AM

as i said, its not tht materialistic factors r totally absent. Bt emotions play a vry importnt role. for eg, while watching a movie, if v c a sch a mournful scene, v cnt resist tears, its because we develop sum emotional bond with the character or sort of empathise with othr characters, putting ourselves in their boots. at the end it comes down to the fact, how emotionally attached u r 2 the dead prsn, how strong u r frm within(sum cn hold their emotions evn in most adverse conditions) and how mch prepared u r for the loss(here materialistic factors can cum in in addition to knowledge/sudddeness of death)
nxt, to call the warmth of frndship (companionship needs) as sumthing materialistic is totally wrong. in tht case evry need of a man will be materialistic, frm food, shelter to need to excel or need to attain ones potentialities. bt its not so.

Bharathi said...
July 28, 2009 at 2:50 PM

@ Vipul: I think negative emotions like sadness, anger etc are byproducts of fear. Fear arises out of selfishness.

What ever I discuss here are subjective. I wont argue that I am always right. Because I evolved over a period of time. I was a religionist for a short while. then I became an atheist and now I am an agnostic. I dont know whom I would be tomorrow. some say I am inconsistent but i say this is growth.

So I dont want to reiterate here that what ever I wrote in my blog is right. I will indeed change if I get enough evidence to take an opposite stance. I just want my blog friends to think in this angle also. because I found something thinking so. I begin to realize that this world is materialistic and result oriented. I am not accusing. I want to understand and accept this fact now. May be untill my next discovery :-)

Here comes a few questions for you to think.

why are we emotionally attached with someone?

Will you show the same affection to people other than your beloved ones?

Will you take a biased decision in a situation involving your beloved ones and some one else?

You are making me to think a lot. I am thinking more to write these comments than post :-) I am indeed happy about that.

Shilpa Garg said...
July 28, 2009 at 3:57 PM

Hi! My first time here! And I must say, an interesting blog...a pretty thoughtful post and a wonderful exchange of comments!! :)

Oops, must not smile, coz I am on the comment box of a very poignant post! :P

Bharathi said...
July 28, 2009 at 6:12 PM

@ Shilpa: heyyy. Thanks for your visit and nice comments. I am very happy.

In this blog, only post area belongs to me. comment area is fully readers'. You can write anything here.

Vipul has a good thinking head and at the moment I am trying to sqeeze it a bit :-)

Vipul Grover said...
July 28, 2009 at 10:46 PM

Man u r squeezing it indeed.. nd tht too whn um down with flu:(
jus kidding.. hmmm now back 2 ur previous reply!
I begin to realize that this world is materialistic... I want to understand and accept this fact now
Now thr lies the problem. till understanding, its fine.. bt it will b better if u try 2 contradict what u blive rathr thn accpt it! ths the true test of consistency of ur belief.. if u'v made up the mind to accept it, thn its difficlt for any1 to refine ur belief..
I get a brownie point thr.. yipieee:p
Ok now to ur questions..
1. um emotionally attached to sumone because of my emotional needs.. tht prsn fulfills thm.. i know where u r taking me.. nd i accpt it.. thrs a big materialistic side 2 this bt thn as i said, in tht case evry human need is materialistic nd so we cant cmplain.
2. No, i won't show same affection 2 othrs like my beloved ones.. nd why shud I. Universal brotherhood sounds gud to hear bt is not practical. Empathic Liberarianism, as i call it is about pragmatism and not utopia.
3. Yes, i mite tend to show bias, bt i'll try 2 supress this urge if by doing so um being unfair to sum1 else.
hmmm.. now its ur trn to squeeeze ur brains.. till thn i'll tak sum rest ;)

Surya said...
July 29, 2009 at 1:35 AM

From my point of view, I would say that, to a third party attending any funeral, it is just another formality. To an immediate family member it’s a ‘loss’ but if the deceased person has left a huge sum of money and asset then the loss just gets compromised within few weeks. The world is of course materialistic. But there might be one person in the world for whom the loss of an individual’s life means something more personal, and that will be a ‘true friend’.

Bharathi said...
July 29, 2009 at 9:59 AM

@ Everyone: Getting positive comments for a post will be amusing. Getting a brilliant negative comment is even more amusing as it helps expanding your knowledge. This post indeed helped it. I have to admit that these comments made me to alter my view to an extent. I thank everyone who commented here and those who intend to comment again.

@ Vipul: My motive behind writing this post is to make everyone understand that this world is materialistic and one should not afraid of accepting this because this world involves their beloved ones. And offcourse I am not complaining.

I take your point
"till understanding, its fine.. bt it will b better if u try 2 contradict what u blive rathr thn accpt it! ths the true test of consistency of ur belief.. if u'v made up the mind to accept it, thn its difficlt for any1 to refine ur belief.."
Will take enough care that I don’t commit this mistake.

Few more challenges in front of me.

1. I need to accept this world is not perfect and it will be like this.
2. No one in this world will have all the characters of your expectation. I need to accept this.
3. I need to learn the art of loving thy people with all these differences.

@ Surya: You actually got the point. But I don’t know if you also understood that the 'true friend' also comes under that materialistic bracket.

Vipul Grover said...
July 29, 2009 at 10:43 PM

@ Vipul: My motive behind writing this post is to make everyone understand that this world is materialistic and one should not afraid of accepting this because this world involves their beloved ones.

@ Bharath: My motive behind writing such long comments is to make u undrstand that this world is not just black(materialistic) or white(non-materialistic). The net grey shade of wrld is made up of ppl having diffrnt shades of grey and that too diffrnt shades at diffrnt times nd with respct 2 diffrnt ppl.
So i'll not accpt ur viewpoint in totality.period.

lol.. i jus won't giv up tht easily ;) nd now um off 2 sleep, um actually half asleep rite now thnx 2 d medication!

Nandhini said...
July 30, 2009 at 12:55 PM

All that I wanted to write was put down really well by Vipul :)

I wouldn't really call the world materialist over an 80yr old granny death - maybe the smile from her grandson was more a relief to her suffering?!

Whereas in the second instance - the man was the family sole breadwinner and his kicking the bucket will be uncomfortable under the circumstances!

First time on the blog... Excellent writing! :)

Bharathi said...
July 30, 2009 at 4:25 PM

@Vipul: I agree that this world has non materialistic people too but they are completely outnumbered by materialistic and so I call them as exceptions.
Regarding the grey spot, I call them as opportunists. They will be materialistic dealing with aspects involving them and non materialistic otherwise. For example they will be materialistic watching India Vs Pakistan match and they will be non materialistic when watching zimbabwe Vs Bangladesh match.

So, I think I am going to make this comments page as the biggest one in history as you would not give up one more time atleast.

You got a supporter Nandhini. Ohh God, the whole materialistic world may turn against me now. LOL Just kidding.

Get well soon.


@ Nandhini:
Welcome to this blog. I am very happy about your extravagant praise and also your confrontation. Keep visiting (confronting :-)

Regarding your comment, I have a vague feeling that you and vipul both agree what ever I said other than my conclusion that the world is materialistic. I say that, this tree gives apple and so I call it as an apple tree. you pals say 'this tree gives apple but dont call it an apple tree'. Why?

@Vipul and Nandhini: I know very well it is difficult to change the opinion we developed over a period of time. And I very well know the ideas I expressed here are not final. All I like you all to do is, keep my idea in your head with an open mind. may be some day it might help you. and offcourse same applies to me.

sudarshan said...
July 30, 2009 at 8:51 PM

Bharathi..

My analogy as below..

Assume that you buy an expensive soup bowl that would give you soup for next 10 years to come. Its like an akshaya patra!!

You bring it home
You drink soup all time.

your children drink 2 servings more than you do in a day.

you share soup with your neighbours once in a week.

you share soup with visitors to your home once in a while.

you call all the people in your town once in an year and distribute soup.


Now tell me what your reaction/your children s reaction/neighbour s reaction/visitor s reaction/villager s reaction would be on different occassions observed below:

1.The soupbowl drops and breaks in year 3.

2.The soupbowl drops and breaks in year 5.

3.The soupbowl drops and breaks in year 9.

4. you notice the quality of soup coming down with time and one fine morning you realise the soup is spoilt.


Year 3 is bereavement of a teen s death.

Year 5 is bereavement of a middle aged s death.

Year 9 is bereavement of an old lady s death.

Quality coming down&Spoilt soup is some one having a chronic illness and dying.

In earlier occasions, there is more juice(read life)left and your expectations were more and in latter occassions expectations were less or set.

Expectations could be in terms of support, bonding,love,chemistry,good times, ability to share experiences,commitments(give and take).

Well..about being material??

Mankind started living in groups and developed a sort of dependancy towards his peers in achieving certain needs which he realised he cant fulfill by himself alone(read need for love,security and soforth)
He was also willing to give something in turn for what he is getting...equal in value or not..so when this equation gets disturbed..so does he and the extent of it is probably proportional to his stake and interest in it...wot say??

Vipul Grover said...
July 30, 2009 at 9:04 PM

I cn feel ur desperation 2 make me say tht this apple tree is an apple tree bt buddy the apple tastes like a mango, so i can't. lol..
I have a vague feeling that you and vipul both agree what ever I said other than my conclusion that the world is materialistic
this vague feeling of urs is prfctly right.. i agree with wat u say bcoz both our premises r same. the diffrnce is while u want 2 have a pessimist conclusion, i just cant.

I agree that this world has non materialistic people too but they are completely outnumbered by materialistic and so I call them as exceptions.
Regarding the grey spot, I call them as opportunists

buddy, u did not undrstand me.. according 2 me there r NO materialistic or non-materialstic ppl, everyone lies sumwhere on the grey scale nd i don't mind calling thm oppurtunists as i dont mind being one wn every1 is.

If u rmmbr these lines frm my latest poem:
I want to be the heretic, not one of them
Bask in eternal sunshine, not eclipsed protem
But I realise, even this sunshine has a cost
Find myself ensnared here, just out of sorts

Like others, I am dependent on all these
The gadgets, the commodities, the material things
Can you sacrifice these to live peacefully
No, replies my adulterated heart sheepishly.


So i am just one of thm nd being heretic is not my cup of tea. if u call it opprtunism, thn let it be.
with tht i rest my case:)

Vipul Grover said...
July 30, 2009 at 9:07 PM

@sudarshan.. beautiful analogy..
bharathi, ur lifes just become more miserable..*an evil LOL*

Bharathi said...
July 31, 2009 at 9:49 AM

@Sudarshan: Excellent thinking and I am very much impressed with the creativity by which you explained your thoughts. Your thinking has gone a distance from our collage days. I am happy for you buddy.
Perhaps you should start a blog on your own.

@ Vipul: I am one of them as well. Since because I wrote this post, it doesnt mean that I am an enightened person who loves everyone irespective of their evil behaviour to me. No. I have my own hatreds, anger, egos, selfishness etc. I am brave enough to accept that. But though my current personality is adulterated, my objective is divine. I want to love people arround me in an unbiased manner. I want to treat every one equal. I desperately want to know the trick of loving them along with their flaws. Through this post I just wanted to say people has flaws. My next objective is to find ways to love them with thus identified flaws. I am not going to conclude that either me or you are correct. We both are in different steps in our life. No one knows who is on top. I believe life will teach us. But I am extreamely happy with your statement that you didnt like pesimistoc ending. Through that I only see your love towards people. I like that.

And thanks a lot for keeping this post very interesting.

IndianPundit said...
July 31, 2009 at 2:33 PM

Hi Bharathi
Firstly i like your name.
Great post and great blog too.

Thanks for visiting.

Cheers.

Bharathi said...
July 31, 2009 at 2:51 PM

@Indian pundit: Thanks pal. keep visiting.

Vipul Grover said...
July 31, 2009 at 4:02 PM

yup yup i know tht vry well u rnt intnding 2 portray ueslf as an enlightnd 1.. moreover v all shud wrk 2wards purifying our adulteratd mind nd soul.. i scnd u on tht 1..
with tht i wantd 2 bring this discussion 2 an end bt jus now reading sumthing sumwhere, one more thing came 2 my mind relating to this topic directly..
How will u explain millions of people around d globe grieving d death of MJ last mnth.many wer like me who wer nvr gr8 fans of MJ bt still ft sum loss wn he lft.. u cant evn say tht d loss was flt bcoz v wer xpcting sum more music frm him nd hence we wer materialitc bcoz he had virtually retired. do think about it..

chandra said...
July 31, 2009 at 4:05 PM

hi bharathi,
nice blog but i dont agree your negative view of being materialistic and selfish.
ill differentiate with a story,
when a thasildhar's dog died many people mourned for the demise. But when he died no one attended the funeral.
this attitude is materialistic and selfish.
but when a young family is pushed to a road not taken its natural to be afraid.
for e.g take our trip to nelliyampathy.......everyone who knows driving can go only to a certain point but after that you need a special vehicle and trained person to enjoy the ride and relish its beauty.
do you term this a selfish? its only we are passing the baton to a person who is well versed in it.
same way when a person who is well versed in negotiating all this rough roads dies then they will be afraid to face those situations by them until one from their family gains the courage and confidence to drive them from where he left.
in this case he has led to a place where everyone can reach but getting is daughter married and his son good future is an uphill task with so many barricades and tides to negotiate.
in the other case the octagenerian has performed all the duties and so the loss is not as tragic as the young one.
this cannot be termed materialistic.
so there is a vast difference between crying selfishly or selflessly.

Vipul Grover said...
July 31, 2009 at 4:17 PM
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Bharathi said...
August 1, 2009 at 10:21 AM

@ Vipul: Thanks a lot for initiating a nice discussion and helping us to learn. Hope to receive more and more of your unbiased analysis in my forth coming posts. And yeah will think about MJ.

@Chandra: I don’t know how people become more creative and analytical when attacking me. Just kidding. With chandra, I have a luxury of having a face to face discussion and so I will settle for this in our next trip to some beautiful place.

manivannan said...
August 1, 2009 at 11:04 AM

hai bharathi, it is true that we will be affected if our beloved one is in problem. as a human and being a sentimental indian it will be too hard to come away from this. but it is possible if anybody see the all living things as one. i dont hope that i crossed that level but i am trying ( ? )

Bharathi said...
August 1, 2009 at 11:13 AM

@Manivannan: Thanks a lot for visiting this blog. You expressed exactly as I feel. I am happy.

Shas said...
August 3, 2009 at 2:05 PM

Nice observation.
Lose is a lose but it depends whom it affects the most.

manivannan said...
August 3, 2009 at 4:41 PM

thanks bharathi. i like that word " you expressed exactly as i feel" it helps me a lot to know about u and your mind set. really u r not born for a simple average human life. u r for something more than that. from your profile i understood u enjoyed lot in the materiel life and you are not getting satisfied with it. you are searching (thedal , a suitable tamil word ) is within u. happy to have friendship with same frequency people. thanks for your blog for introducing u to me. manivannan, erode . 9944121150

Mr.R said...
August 4, 2009 at 3:35 PM

Death is the only constant in this world but I differ with your view in this post and concur with what Vipul said.

Materialistic aspects apart , when a person dies of good old ripe age , people think he or she has lived the life full and its time for the next change , its not the case of person who dies at middle age or young age , they have a lot of responsibilities left and the vaccum is felt more out of it.

P.S > (Off topic) I liked this blog theme of your than the previous one.

Bharathi said...
August 4, 2009 at 4:40 PM

@ Manivannan: Thanks for your comment manivannan. But i feel you have showered accolades more than that I deserve. I am just a nomal being with all the emotions intact. May be I can call myself a little openminded to learn. However I am happy to know that you have an urge (thedal) in your heart. Keep visiting and keep exchanging your views.

@ Mr. R: Probably at the moment we can agree to disagree. But I like the way you analyze and comment. Keep commenting.

Bharathi said...
August 4, 2009 at 4:45 PM

@ Shas: Thanks pal. I saw your blog and quite liked it.

Bharathi said...
August 6, 2009 at 8:37 PM

@ Manivannan: you can call me on 4246886 ehen you come to tirupur

Singh Amit said...
September 1, 2009 at 8:31 PM

Thought Provoking Post... :)

The questions, u have raised, really make me to think about the naked truth of human psychology. I have witnessed these circumstances myself. And no wonder,If I can conclude that our affection, our fear, our sorrows are somehow related to subtle desire of existence... and scientifically this is what Darwin claims..Survival ...Existence makes every one to
survive, when ever there is obstruct in survival, we struggle through unhappiness and fear.
Morality, religion, family is a way to survive...nothing else...
May be, there will be flaws in my naked opinion..But I hope u can understand the answer of one question "Why people took the death of the elderly lady very light?"

cheers!!

Bharathi said...
September 2, 2009 at 8:56 AM

@ Amit: We cant say any fact we find in our life is always right. But unless we have braveness to accept the found fact, we can not move fforward. I can say you have that braveness. I really appreciate it.

Attitude tees said...
October 10, 2009 at 11:48 PM

I'm scared of the world, dying and space. When i was 9 my teacher told me the sun would blow up soon. So now, ever since i can't bare Science lessons on space and the world. I'm also scared of things like drowning from global warming. I'm scared of dying because when the sun blows up i think it will blow up the earth and when i'm dead, my body will be floating by its self in space, i often have nightmares about this. I'm not scared of anything else though.

Bharathi said...
October 11, 2009 at 11:44 AM

Thats a kinda fobia. But do you think any one can escape from dyeing? besides, you dont hav to worry about body as thats not of use when u r dead. am i intensifying your fobia ?

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Chandramouli said...
June 10, 2010 at 5:01 AM

For people at ripe age and ailing for long, death is a great relief. Good that they don't continue to live and suffer more. It's a relief for the surviving family as well. Of course, for close family members, losing a dear one at whatever age is sad indeed, however much they reconcile to the situation. In the case of people dying in middle or young age, our sympathies first go to the family members who have to pick up the threads again and find their moorings in life.

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