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The society considers me evil whenever I ask reasons for whatever I have been asked to do. My mum calls me atheist when I ask why I should pray god when I understood asking favors from God is business. Similarly my religionist friends or money fanatic gentlemen calls me arrogant and impractical for my views on religion and money respectively. (I intend to write a separate post on money fanatics soon). But somehow I can’t stop questioning every aspect as I feel empty and awkward doing anything without knowing the reason.
Once upon a time in UK, when I was tiredly coming back from my most loathed night shift part time job, I got a phone call from my mom to inform me that she had mailed a photo of a girl whom she intended to get married to me. And she insisted that she will not go ahead with marriage until I say OK. What do you think I could comment on this unknown girl? I saw the picture and she was indeed beautiful. I asked my mom to get her phone number. I know it would be stupid for a near stranger to ask a girl if she likes me. So I asked her if she was interested in this marriage whole heartedly. I thought I made a gentle move and was proud of myself for framing a question like that. But it was a different story altogether when I came to know later that this poor girl didn’t even remember what I asked her for the first time.
Couple of days later, I was roaming on the greenly university lawn. I didn’t yet confirm my consent to my mother. Normally in winter season, the lawn would be totally empty and free from those half naked chicks sunbathing. I mean then it was perfectly ideal place for ideating and rightly I was thinking why I should get married. What should be the reasons behind it?
My young mind said ‘it is a license by the society to have sex’.
My materialistic mind said that ‘I need a near age companion to get over the toughest parts of life like sickness and lean patches’.
My philosophical mind said that ‘This would help me learn more about a fellow passenger of life and by this you can understand life better’.
My spiritualistic mind said that ‘understanding and unifying with one should be the starting point to realize the oneness theory’.
My diplomatic and desired mind said that ‘the reason would be a mixture of all these and urged me to confirm my consent at once’.
And ultimately that was what I did.
A few years of marriage indeed helped me learn a fair bit of all the above. I understood every person in this world is brought up in various environments and so the views can never be unanimous. Unless we learn to love a person with all the differences, we cannot lead a peaceful life. This indeed suits the society (I mean the people around you) as well. The key is not about bearing the pain or escaping from bad moments, its about accepting the flaws. Being so diplomatic you cannot assume that I am a wonderful husband as I am yet to master this art.
What do you guys think could be the reasons for marriage. I intend to prompt couple of my UK friends to comment as they may have a different opinion.
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