The Mask



After a long gap, I am back. Honestly I won’t say, I am extremely busy that I cant even find little time to write a post. Though it became quite busy nowadays, I did have some free time, but the problem is that I wasn’t in a right frame of mind to think.   
    
Nevertheless, I am back now.    

 
To give an introduction, this post may contain high philosophical stuff. I think you all know that this is a decent way of saying that I am going to bore you down to the core. 

    
Have you ever heard of the word ‘Mamaharam’. Probably you wouldn’t as it is not an English word. Even Tamil people wouldn’t have heard it as it is seldom used. ‘Mamaharam’ means our idea of how others think about our self.  

 
In recent past, I was observing my own self on if I am portraying my true self to the outside world.  The result is a big NO. I wear too many masks to hide my true self. Sometimes the mask is so permanent that makes me to forget my true identity.

   
If you wonder what these mask means, for example if you have to get a work done in a government office, say a bank. When you were conversing with the manager, most likely he will crack a poor joke with high dose of sarcasm and also you would never fail to notice how well they utilize the long government procedures to the advantage of their laziness. Along with these, the pace at which the work moves at that office will make you feel to kick him right along with the chair that he was sitting. But you cant. Here you will wear a smiley mask.  

   
Similarly, we use masks to hide our selfishness, arrogance, psychic feeling and lust.

     
'Mamaharam' plays a good role in introducing new masks to us. If we feel some one is thinking good about our self, we don’t want to spoil that image. Immediately we wear a mask that will best suit that image. We do it quite often. Don’t we? 

    
I agree, if only there is no such masks, the world will be one hell of a place. But I feel covering a wound is not good enough. We need to find some way to heal it. 

  
In some way the world compels all of us to wear a mask. Because everyone wears a mask and tease those who haven’t done this tradition. The whole society is like this. 

    
Unless we stop wearing masks, we are not going any further in self exploration that I think is the key to find out the secret of life. 

   
If we need to come out of these masks, either we should stop doing actions clandestine or we should develop courage to face this world. Probably if we reduce the dependency level with this society, we can gain that courage.    

 
I know these are easy said than done. So far I developed courage in informing you that I havnt moved a step forward to shed away the ‘n’ number of masks that I am wearing now. But I believe, writing this article may propel me to take evasive action in uncovering my true identity.   

   
If you are reading this line, then probably you are courageous person to bear all my boredom. So I decided to award you with “Iron Heart” (ethaiyum thangum idayam).


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Among those blogs I read recently, I am most impressed with this post.

 
This post is very profound, well thought and forward thinking. A must read. I like people with unbiased ideas as such.

41 comments:

Shilpa said...
December 7, 2009 at 2:24 PM

Hey, I am here again!!! This time to comment. :D

These masks are necessary evils of our times. One can never put off these masks completely from one's face as one's true self is not that beautiful to be shown.

shilpa

Shilpa said...
December 7, 2009 at 2:25 PM

Oh! I forget, me first to comment!!! :P
Though I wonder what difference does it make to comment first or last!

Shilpa Garg said...
December 7, 2009 at 3:08 PM

A thought provoking post, Bharathi!
It's inevitable...wearing a mask I mean.
I guess, it's all right to wear one, as long as we know that it is a mask. But when the mask becomes the reality for us, then its trouble.

Shankar said...
December 7, 2009 at 3:20 PM

Very true.. we have to wear many masks at different situations... we are forced to in certain situations.. like the one in government office...

(For me) courage is also a mask which we wear to hide our fear...

good post bharathi..
and this is the first post I am reading after a month nearly.... as an effort to come back into the world of blogging...

Bharathi said...
December 7, 2009 at 4:29 PM

@ Shilpa: Thanks a lot for your comment. I indeed mentioned your point in the post. But you put it in a very nice way. Thanks again.

And yeah, commenting first doesnt make any difference other than feeding loads of ego to the blog writer's narcissism :-)

@ Shilpa Garg: Thanks for commenting. And yeah to some extent it is true.

@ Shankar: Nice to see you back. Yeah, when we try to show it off, it is a mask.

All the best for your comeback.

Aditya said...
December 7, 2009 at 6:25 PM

Well in my opinion, there is no way to remove the masks we wear because a new one crops up immediately. There are so many, even layers of them that what we think as our true self is also one of the masks we put up :)

vEnKy said...
December 7, 2009 at 7:01 PM

Revoulition is not just in your name bharathy even in your thinking. I usual dont go overboard praising anyone but your made me do it. You are so right we wear masks according the situation to be sans masks one must really be sage ( i mean a real sage). Nan ethaiyum thaangum ithayam bharathy :-)

Vipul Grover said...
December 7, 2009 at 10:36 PM

wow.. free promotion of my blog :)
hey, u r right about the masks.. we all wear thm all the time.. so true.. once again u leave no scope for an argument or discussion :p

Sat_hi_sh said...
December 7, 2009 at 11:10 PM

Survival of the fittest Bharathi .....
Thats why ppl wear these masks ,TO SURVIVE......

anyways nice post...
didnt get bored :)


keep blogging
cheers!!!!

Bharathi said...
December 7, 2009 at 11:35 PM

@ Aditya: I dont think its 'no way' but I do understand it would be one of the hardest jobs. Thanks for commenting.

@ Venky: Thanks a lot for your nice comment. I am happy. very happy.

@ Vips: I have a count. Will let you know once it reaches a nice figure. I mean the fees.

And thanks for agreeing.

@ Sathish: You are true. Thats exactly the reason. But I would like to go beyond the reason. Thanks a lot for your comment.
Hey, I am waiting for your Vetaikaran review. I saw the trailer. One thing is sure, you need to stuff your ears with cotton before entering the theater.

Ravan said...
December 8, 2009 at 1:20 AM

welcome back lazy boy,

i believe the masks are worn by people who are afraid to remove them...:)

well lazy as I am, I wish to write furthur but will stay paused here.

U will c answer, sometime soon on my blog...:D

Mahesh Kalaal said...
December 8, 2009 at 11:17 AM

We often wear masks to satisfy societal obligations n expectations.....in the name of Morality and ethics.....n v call it as LIFE.....
Being an anthropologist i love such topics on human attributes and i can very well connect to this post...

You said "But I feel covering a wound is not good enough. We need to find some way to heal it. ..."

My observations are

I think the wound will become bigger and a threat to the societal structures if we dont wear masks...
Wearing masks is to get adaptable to the surroundings(living and non living)
Chameleon and moths do wear masks of colours depending on the surroundings and situations...
Many insects and small animals wear a mask of acting when they hurt to deceive the predator....

Crocodiles and tigers use mask of deception/hiding until they attack the predator

I am not saying that masking is natural...aM not sure.

If i come across a dumb post....i wont say it directly to the author, rather, i would say "It could be better".

So, the matters of perceptions and relativity do creep in

May be masks can be categorized...
May be we need a theory of masks where we will be told when/where/whom/how/why to wear masks

So, starting Masksism ??? kidding...
i want to write more....but lemmi see your response first...

How about adding few more dimensions to this topic??....

BK Chowla said...
December 8, 2009 at 12:08 PM

We all live in an environment and society which is wearing masks all the times and within the systems it is not possible to remain without a mask---if one wants to keep moving in life.

Bharathi said...
December 8, 2009 at 12:26 PM

@ Ravan: u too lazy??. no problem will wait to see ur response in ur blog.

@ Mahesh: I am happy that you received this post well. I can also sense you have a thinking head. And so, you are most welcome to write more.

I can understand essential masks, whos intention was not to hurt the opponent is mandatory.

I am much worried about the masks that we wear to hide our ugly face. My point is to divert the efforts we take to make the masks more beautiful to heal the wounds.

@ Chawla: You are quite practical, but I like to differ a little bit. I believe we can live without masks (apart from the essential masks that I replied in Mahesh's).

Vishnu said...
December 9, 2009 at 12:17 AM

is there a way to wear another mask to undo the first mask??
neways.. totally agreed.. the word lust has left me pondering..

Bharathi said...
December 9, 2009 at 9:07 AM

@ Vishnu: Yeah. thats what I am wearing :-).
Thanks for agreeing. and yeah lust is the most popular thing that goes under mask.

Lakshmi Rajan said...
December 10, 2009 at 10:18 AM

*sighs* it took so long for you to wear the blog mask again n post an article ;)

Wearing a mask is inevitable. One has to wear a different mask at different times for the very basic survival and to maintain the balance in the relations and society...

And i agree with Mahesh in his view on masks ..

Bharathi said...
December 10, 2009 at 11:23 AM

@ L R: Nice to have you back (actually you (commentators) should have said that. but so pity, no one said that :-(.

Well I have not yet came to a decision on this topic, probably that was also one of the reasons for my delay in posting this one.

I am considering every ones views.
I agree this world will not look very good if everyone shed their masks away. (shilpa Sharma said that the thing underneath mask is always not good)

But this doesnt mean that we dont have to take efforts to make the thing underneath, a better one.

At the moment we all are concentrating on decorating our masks. I would like to divert those efforts to make our real thing a better one.

Shilpa said...
December 10, 2009 at 8:25 PM

@Bharathi ji: Even I believe that we have to make efforts to make the thing underneath a better one..but you see may be we can better it 90% but that 10% percent will still be left ugly underneath(as there is nothing like a perfect person though I do believe in near to perfect) and to cover that 10%we have to wear masks. Anyways I do wear masks but I don't decorate them with false qualities.

And one more thing is that to live in this society, you have to wear masks. We are born in this society, we live in it and we will die in it. Even if someone says I do not care about society at all, I won't believe it...So masks have to be there in some quantity.
I agree with SG(that's shilpa garg)that masks are troublesome if they become the reality...

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shilpa

Shilpa said...
December 10, 2009 at 8:28 PM

oh! by the way, your blog template loads quite slow these days...

Standbymind said...
December 10, 2009 at 9:37 PM

Deep and powerful...nicely penned!!
:)

Bharathi said...
December 11, 2009 at 1:20 PM

@ Shilpa: I agree with you almost all. Though I dont disagree with 10% and 90% stuff, I am thinking on it for quite a long time, but yet not reached an opinion on it.

I also agree, as long as you depend on this society, you are bound to follow the rules and expectations of it. Even this area, I was thinking for quite long.

I dont know why the template loads slow. I took away almost all the images and gadgets. May be the content of my writing is too heavy ;-)

@ Standbymind: welcome to this blog. I am glad you liked it. Keep visiting/ commenting.

Shas said...
December 12, 2009 at 4:27 AM

Welcome back.

Bharathi said...
December 12, 2009 at 12:07 PM

@ Shas: accepted ur welcome :-)

Bharathi said...
December 14, 2009 at 12:43 PM

@ Shruti: ITs working

Chetan said...
December 14, 2009 at 3:55 PM

well you ar right
but one has to be practical in life, one has to wear mask
one can not be naive all the time

but i think you thought about this a lot, probably for days

Bharathi said...
December 14, 2009 at 6:17 PM

@ Chetan: to be clear, I havnt arrived on any conclusion till date. But you are right, I was thinking about this for ages.

Raj said...
December 14, 2009 at 9:36 PM

masks.
life is a masquerade carnival. to us, even the one who shows his true self seems like a masked man.

Bharathi said...
December 15, 2009 at 9:49 AM

@ Raj: very true. If some one dont wear a mask, this world become very unsecured and tease, snub and do everything to bring him back masked.

Raj said...
December 15, 2009 at 9:54 AM

lol. yeah. the way you talk, it seems you have had your share of snubbing and teasing. that true?

Bharathi said...
December 15, 2009 at 10:52 AM

@ Raj: ohh,, you are judging me! But thats true.

Raj said...
December 15, 2009 at 10:58 AM

naah not judging. asking. everyones had their share of goosebumps. :(

Bharathi said...
December 15, 2009 at 4:59 PM

@ Raj: :-) true. no problem

Sandy said...
December 17, 2009 at 4:14 AM

I like your post..also I am absolutely agree with "we should develop courage to face this world".

BUT...

In front of idiot boss..nothing works...only MASK is the best option (jus go on increasing his ego)..

Bharathi said...
December 17, 2009 at 9:20 AM

@ Sandy: :-). welcome to this blog. keep visiting.

The unsure ascetic said...
December 28, 2009 at 11:59 PM

very profound article mate. It is indeed true, these masks. have you seen the program 'Bigg Boss'. What better platform where you can see this process,'mamaharam' at work.
Cheers!

Bharathi said...
December 29, 2009 at 6:26 PM

@ The unsure ascetic: Thanks mate. I havnt seen the program Big boss. but i am happy that u liked it.

NesQuarX said...
December 30, 2009 at 6:16 PM

Very profound this observation of yours... I remember having a similar insight and writing about it. Personally, the only way out of wearing masks which I've found to work is splitting into different personas. There is the public persona, where I actually am the arrogant shallow arse that I seem to be. On the other hand is my private persona, which is the me that is mine. That way I don't have to wear masks, just be the person necessary for the moment.

Bharathi said...
January 1, 2010 at 11:36 PM

@ Nesquarx: I can understand how well you analyzed the masks. I am happy. Keep visiting :-)

The Aspirant said...
February 6, 2010 at 4:50 PM

well, wadever u have mentioned is quite true.......
It feels starnge but i have left dose masks wid d bidding last year.....i get all criticisms coz of it, but m getting addicted of dem nw.....atleast m happy now, m fearless nw nd most imp. thing I am me only.......

first tym at ur blog (thanx to shruti fr dat)
a great piece of wrk.....spl.d simple language stuff attracts me
most......
hope to see much wrk frm u.

cheers

Bharathi said...
February 6, 2010 at 8:08 PM

@ The aspirant: Thanks pal for your nice comments. keep visiting.

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