Sex and the Cynics

Some time back, the hot news was that ND Tiwary, playing with three different beauties each day. I heard a lot about it from all quarters. All quarters includes both the sexes and all ages right from 16 to 70.

Everyone teased him lavishly for his lovely taste at his early eighties. Few giggled about having three different girls at various times of a day. The medias, kept on telecasting the poor quality sex tape 24x7. Finally the government ousted him by forcing him for resignation.

I feel, all the giggling and teasings are only the out ward expressions of emotions resulted from their age old hidden desires which they were unable to perform because of social taboos. I could spot the loathe in their eyes on how could a eighty three year old man could do that they cant.

I woudnt even call them as critics, rather I would call them cynics.

In my opinion, we didn’t give enough importance to those important points that should have been focused. Instead we discussed criticized and punished a personal choice without knowing that it is ill mannered to comment on a person’s intimacy.

While marrying, we promise the spouse that we would live only with him or her. Our children treats us a hero when they growup and it is our moral responsibility to lead by example. Here ND Tiwary broke these promises. 

But that is their family issue which should be sorted out personally within themselves. We don’t have any business to ruin their privacy. And it is disgustingly ill mannered, in my opinion.

Instead, I believe the following should have been our focus points.

1.    He used public money for his pleasures and he bent the government rules to issue contracts. That’s a mistake. We should question that.
2.    He feigned clear image to get the support from people. We can call him hypocrite for this.

Instead of penalizing and accusing him for the act of sex, we should question and take action for the above points. We should also make sure these are not repeated by any in future. If we do this, I believe we would have a better and cultured environment around us.


Shilpa said...
February 7, 2010 at 8:25 PM

I personally don't have any opinion about this incident. I neither agree nor disagree with you right now. But nevertheless, I also want to see what others have to say about it;may be I'll reach at some opinion in the end. :)


Vipul Grover said...
February 8, 2010 at 1:52 AM

thumbs up.. more thn anything, its a clear case of malfeasance, misuse of a public office.. Just resignation or dismissal is not wat should be the course of action.. it calls for stricter punishment.. Office of Governor is too sacred to commit sch crimes bt sadly, wat was done by Tiwari is not sumthing new!!

Bharathi said...
February 8, 2010 at 9:06 AM

Shlpa: alright. lets see.

Vipul: welcome back mamu. I agree the punishment is not enough. I also made another point. did you notice?

BK Chowla, said...
February 8, 2010 at 10:02 AM

Governors job is now given as a reward to those who have been loyal-.
We can all have an opinion and you may be right in suggesting what you have.
I would suggest ,instead of criticising him,let some lab or some govt agency carry on research on this man as to the secret of his energy.He is 86 and needs support when gets up from his seat but can manage three girls at the same time.Needs research.

Himanshu said...
February 8, 2010 at 10:31 AM

its a Basi news
he use governer house & money for his lust
& god knows how he managing at this age.
He can get some adds of "Hamdard Davakhana"
Well we know that nothing mush will happen to him. He is C M of UP 3 times and has strong presence in judiciary too
And beleive me this is self imposed discipline and none can enforce it

Bharathi said...
February 8, 2010 at 4:35 PM

@ Chawla: :-)

@ Himanshu: Very true.

Kamal said...
February 9, 2010 at 12:21 AM

Wat u posted may suit for evry one. We can only proclaim about his wastage of public money and using a govt office for ones personal use. Commenting on ones' personal affair is unethical(who ever it may be).

Bharathi said...
February 10, 2010 at 11:45 AM

@ Kamal: good. I am happy that you understood.

Ankit said...
February 10, 2010 at 12:54 PM

Crap !

Bharathi said...
February 10, 2010 at 1:12 PM

@ Ankit: thanks for commenting, but your comment is too short for me to easily discard you as another narrow minded being.

so if you need an answer, you gotta be vivid in your points. I dont mind healthy discussion.

Mohan said...
February 10, 2010 at 2:01 PM

Bang on! Our media lives by 3 Cs - Cricket, Crime & Cinema. Nothing else matters! Just sensationalize everything and draw the attention is not so required things... Don't know when the media learns to show the important things that matter the most to common man.

First time here... came through indiblogger.. nice blog you have :)

Tarun Mitra said...
February 10, 2010 at 2:05 PM

Bharathi...stirred up right points dude..but dunno how many will agree..I remember DPS MMS scandal, everyone criticized it but only after they enjoyed the sleaze..


Bharathi said...
February 10, 2010 at 5:37 PM

@ Mohan:Thanks a lot for understanding and for all the nice words. keep visiting.

@ Tarun Mitra: Am happy that you liked it. keep visiting.

Haddock said...
February 11, 2010 at 11:11 PM

I agree with you in this.
Its his personal choice.

Bharathi said...
February 12, 2010 at 9:32 AM

@ Haddock: Thanks buddy.

Sandy said...
February 13, 2010 at 7:55 PM

You have raised the correct points which supposed to be focused. But our media didn't get more TRP with the points you raised. Media just wants to cash the moments. They have nothing to do with the real pain and issues.

Bharathi said...
February 15, 2010 at 10:28 AM

@ Sandy: Thanks for understanding :-)

Uncommon Sense said...
February 20, 2010 at 12:11 PM

i think when someone is a public figure, these kind of things are to be considered as an occupational hazard,, these are the price that one and one's family pays for the previlidge of being an important figure or being the relatives of important figure...

Bharathi said...
February 20, 2010 at 5:03 PM

@ Uncommon sense: welcome to this blog. Yeah, I agree this is one of the points from the other side that I havnt touched in this post.

Thanks for commenting.

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try said...
March 1, 2010 at 7:16 PM

Failure is the mother of success...................................................

Bharathi said...
March 2, 2010 at 7:19 PM

@ try: I am sorry i coudnt understand your comment.

Anonymous said...
March 10, 2010 at 5:14 PM

even if there is no 'rape' u mean to say there could have been no exploitation of the 3 'beauties'? u think the 'sex' was 'consensual'?
p;ease think of those girls' human rights instead of worrying too much of of that rascal's privacy.

seeking the truth from the facts is not easy, still one can try/

Anonymous said...
March 11, 2010 at 10:11 AM

even if there was no 'rape' do u think the acts were 'consensual'?
u should think of the human rights of those women and their exploitation instead of worrying too much about that rascal's right to privacy.

If morals of an individual happens to be the sole concern of a family alone what do think this society will turn into?

ya said...
March 19, 2010 at 1:32 PM


Bharathi said...
March 22, 2010 at 3:44 PM

@ Anonymous: Any where in my post I didnt think I supported or worried for ND Tiwary. I clearly pointed out his mistakes. My point is that we are focussing on some thing else than the most important aspects of this issue. Please read again now so that you can understand better.

Secondly, if that girl has chosen her carrier without any compulsion, analyzing all the legal and social implications, I respect that too. I am nobody to interfere in her personal choice. Instead if she was forced into this, I am dead against those who have done that.

And the last point. society. society is no God in my opinion. it is also prone to face the effects of its actions just like every being here in this world.

A nice comment by you. but why anonymous?

@ Ya: you have to write in English.

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lexi said...
April 1, 2010 at 4:03 PM

Well said... exactly. I completely agree with you :)

Bharathi said...
April 2, 2010 at 10:50 AM

@ Lexi: Thanks

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