Love Marriage

இந்த பூமியை புதுப்பித்துக் கொண்டே இருக்கும் விஷயங்கள் இரண்டு தான்.
ஒன்று உழைப்பு, மற்றொன்று காதல்.
உழைப்பு மட்டும் இல்லை என்றால் இந்த பூமி தோன்றிய பொழுதில் இருந்து தோற்றத்திலேயே இருந்திருக்கும்.
காதல் மட்டும் இல்லை என்றால் ஆதாம்-ஏவாளுக்கு பிறகு மனிதத் தொடர்ச்சியே இல்லாமல் போயிருக்கும்

(Translation: work and love are the two factors that keep renewing this world. if there was no work, there wouldn't have been any development. If there was no love there wouldn't be any living things apart from Adam and Eve.)

My cousin's above face book status prompted me to write this post.


Though I like to make this world a better place for our fellow beings, I really don't bother for the prolonged existence of this world as it is creator's headache. 

What impressed me most in this status message was the closeness he came to understanding nature.

If we watch carefully, nature wants us to lead our life in a certain way. Nature wants this world to ever evolve. So it created interest between male and female. I guess that is what we call as love.

Nature created hunger, prompting us to work. Then we created egos, jealousy and greed making it easy for nature.

Though I understood that nature wants us to lead our life in a certain way, I really don't know if I have to obey nature or rebel against it. That is the biggest question I face now. Now a days, I really don't bother to rebel against anything or anyone. Probably that is what made me an atheist, agnostic and what ever 'eist' I am now. I appreciate this. yeah, self appreciation. I dont care.

One thing that I cant stand in our culture is, its enmity to love marriage. For me, love is neither divine nor untouchable. Its just natural. Absolutely natural. As I said above, nature wants a male to love a female. It will happen to every one as like hunger, because it is programmed such a way. where as marriage is societal. Our society created marriage for various reasons that I have already discussed in two other topics, here and here.

Probably, this society should have setup arranged marriage as a system to save people who would not be able to find their mates for various reasons. I strongly believe there would be someone who likes a person if not all. so this reason doesn't seem to be convincing for suppressing a very natural behavior called love.

saying this, I am not going to assure you all sunshines and rainbows when we get love marriage. Managing a girl is an art which I havn't mastered yet. it takes a lot of sacrifice, compromise and understanding to make a successful relationship irrespective of it arising from love marriage or arranged marriage. And also one have to seriously think on managing this society after that. All I want to say is that, I just didn't like the idea of suppressing a very natural behavior of love by installing a system called arranged marriage.

After reading such a boring and tiny opinion, you can enjoy watching this. A stress reliever. But dont look for me after watching this, instead look for him.

After a long time, I finished it very short. Am happy. very happy. I am sure you too. Bye.

A letter to atheist

Dear Atheist,

I am writing this letter not to prove that you are in the wrong side. I was a theist for many years, and then I became an atheist for a while. I was converted as an agnostic until a short while ago and now I am slowly transcending towards pantheism I guess. As I keep changeing my self, I don’t think I have any moral rights to claim my views are always right.

Then why am I writing this letter?

I want you to think and analyze if you have comfortably struck in one place forgetting the growth. That’s all.

I respect atheists more than theists for the very reason that they have courage to question the supposed to be most powerful being in this universe. After taking that great first step, I see many atheists get struck there. I don’t know if that is because they like the rebellion image that they created being an atheist or they really don’t have place to move from there or they strongly believe there is nothing more than that of what they see now?
In my childhood, I blindly followed elders when they go to temples. When I attain an age to question a little bit, they said, “If you defame God, he will blind your eyes”.  At that age, I can’t imagine living without sight, so I patiently stopped questioning.
After a while, when they saw lack of interest in me for prayer, they said, “If you pray God, you will get good marks. He is more powerful and he can give whatever you want”. That kind of inspired me. I started making too many requests. When I questioned why some of my requests went unanswered, they said “you wouldn’t have prayed whole heartedly”. They also said, “This is only for  your good”.
If god knows what is good and he gives that to me, then why should I pray? They intervened immediately, “Don’t speak rubbish”. When I grew up, I developed courage to check why some/most of my requests are unanswered by God. I understood that, this universe had its own set of rules in making and running this life and that will not change for whatever reason. Even if I shed tears in blood, that will not change. From that moment I stopped going to temple and became an atheist. Poverty and natural calamities and all added value fr my stance then.

But that ‘own set of rules’ kept pondering in my head. For whatever reason, I couldn’t understand the source for this universe, motive for life and innumerable complexities in human mind. Earth, stars, space, people, planets, sun, moon,..... where has it come from? Most importantly why has it come for? What are we trying to prove with this life? These questions kept baffling me. For me, Life seems like a book without few of the front and last pages. These questions made me an agnostic.

Though my questions were answered by none so far, can I broadly conclude that these are the acts of nature? I guess my atheist friends will agree with this. If nature does this, then can we collectively call the nature as God? See, now I am transcending towards pantheism. But any ways, whoever the God is, I am not going to knock his door with petitions or recommendations to help my existence. If anything has to happen in this world, it has to happen through me and only me. What ever happened and happens to me, that is because of me and only me. For that extent I am clear.
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